Why are cynics always quick to blame religion for global conflicts when really they are equally to blame?

I think atheists see religions as gangs. They accept those who adhere to there codes of conduct. While separating them selves from the rest of humanity. This is all well and good until one gang decides that there way is right and any other way is wrong. How do you solve this problem. On both sides you have a group of like minded fanatics, who would rather die and kill, then entertain any possibility that neither is right. Atheists in general don't blame religion for everything at all. We simply refuse to take sides. So if you believe your right then that's fine With me. Just don't try to drag me in to the argument because by doing so. You as a religious person would be creating the very conflict that would occur. Thus reinforcing the beliefs of certain people that religion leads to conflict.